I'll show you how to get fit, lead your family, and live fully with realistic advice and encouragement. Sends on Fridays.
It was late on a Friday night. I was sitting on the couch, eating some Himalayan salt potato chips, and watching Welcome to Wrexham. The phone rang and I didn’t recognize the number. Now, with the absurd number of spam calls, I don’t usually answer the phone from an unknown number. But, it was in the same area code as my mom and I felt some kind of compulsion to answer. “Hello?” And then time stopped. At least for me. That was Friday, September 22. All the phone calls, texts, and DMs with family and friends to share the tragic news. All the communication with lawyers and officials to start the probate process. Starting grief counseling. And I’ve still been going to the gym regularly. But it looks very different than before two weeks ago. I’m not chasing gains. I’m not trying to hit PRs. I’m not attempting new, unconventional movements. My only goal is two-fold:
The first day or so, I tried to push myself at the same intensity and my CNS (central nervous system) couldn’t take the stress. My heart would start racing, I’d get an overwhelming sense of anxiety, and I’d start crying on the gym floor. I need strength training for my physical and mental well-being, but grief does weird things to people. It looks different for everyone and there is no wrong/right way to do it. When you experience significant loss, I encourage you to:
I wouldn’t wish this situation on anyone, but loss is a certainty for all of us. I’m not an expert in it. I wasn’t prepared for it. I’m still working through it. I pray that when it happens to you, that you feel the comfort of God, and the support of family and friends who love you. Move your body. Keep up the good work! P.S. Call or text someone and tell them what they mean to you. |
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I'll show you how to get fit, lead your family, and live fully with realistic advice and encouragement. Sends on Fridays.
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